We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Tami Reed. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Tami below.

Hi Tami, thanks for joining us today. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

At the pivotal, impressionable age of 14, I was gifted with a moment of deciding whether or not I would choose to continue to breathe life and time into this body that I was so graciously given. I had always been a quiet, intuitive child. I was always observing. Wondering and watching why people behaved the way they did. I am naturally an internal processor. Never making a fuss of anything. I was choosing at that time to believe a story that I was in too much mental pain to continue to exist in this lifetime. I truly believed, that it would be best for all, if I just exited.

One beautiful July Day, I decided would be the day to leave this physical experience. I had just gotten back from our local reservoir. A bunch of the local kids where hanging out and enjoying the water activities on a hot summer day. Before this day, I was already silently showing symptoms of depression. Nobody, at this time, could tell though. I did a wonderful job of masking it. I did great in school. I had a loving family. I had wonderful friends and I was very involved in my community. Nobody though, could hear the internal dialogue going on and the battle I was choosing to be in with myself…that was growing louder by the day.

There is always something that gets someone to choose their exit day. And it is no fault of another. We can’t see the invisible pilot flames that are silently flickering inside, laying dormant, waiting to be activated and triggered. At that age, I was unaware of how to create my own internal sunshine. Unaware of the emotions I was choosing to feed. Unaware of the story I was choosing to create. The world magically puts things in our journey seeing if we have the courage to mine for the gold in the depths of our pain. Pain has the ability to gift us amplified potentials with purpose…if we are willing and courageous enough to look for the lesson.

That day, an old boyfriend, chose to shout something sexual & personal between us for all to hear as he drove off with his buddies. I of course pretended, as if that arrow he just shot at me had missed. I laughed, as everyone turned their gaze on me to see how I was going to react. “Did he hit his bullseye” the eyes wondered. I presented calm, cool, and collected as always. Even though that arrow hit exactly where it had been aimed. Dead center in my little 14 year old heart. There was no way I was going to present outwardly how painful it was internally. I could feel my armor around my heart starting to shatter around me into little pieces as the voice inside my head was telling me “see, there is your proof! You won’t be missed.” It was in that moment, I knew. As my friends drove me home, I silently gazed out the window watching the hay fields pass by and my friends laughter become more distant in my awareness and all I could hear was that little voice whispering… Today is the day.

As soon as I got dropped off I asked my parents if I could go for a bike ride. Puzzled by me wanting to do that, they paused and said “Sure, don’t be long, it’s about to get dark.” When no one was looking, I grabbed an unopened bottle of pain relievers and off I went. I knew the exact spot that I wanted to drift off to sleep. Under a bridge next to the river where I could silently fade away from the pain.

As darkness fell upon our little town, I could hear my father panically looking for me. I was purposefully avoiding the search party. I knew I just needed a little bit more time. I could feel the effects of the drugs starting to take hold. My brain is foggy on how I was finally discovered. I just remember feeling the fire coming off my father as we drove home in his loud chevy truck. He was aggressively asking me what drugs I was on. In his mind he was thinking illegal drugs. I kept assuring him that I hadn’t taken any. I was telling the truth after all, technically they weren’t illegal. By this time, there were clear signs that something was very wrong with my body. My parents kept asking and pleading. I was holding strong though, completely deaf to their pleading hearts. Until the world went silent and all I could hear was this soft loving voice whisper. “Child, your value lies within your own heart, not in the heart of another”

In that instant I felt a cosmic explosion and shift in me. I knew I was gifting my power away. I knew I was loved by something far greater than any human could ever love me. I knew I had the strength to choose to stay. I just knew. I immediately then told what I had done. We lived 30 miles from the nearest hospital. My parents drove me as quickly as they could. I am sure it was the longest most painful 30 minutes that they had to endure up to that point. My parents kept begging me to “just stay awake.” I knew that I knew what I knew. I was already okay. Those beautiful words shifted something in my mind that calibrated my heart differently.

I spent a week in the hospital. They weren’t sure if I had done enough damage that I’d need a liver transplant. I did not. I knew I was gifted a moment that I could never completely explain to another. I no longer had the need or desire to choose my own exit. It just magically dissolved in that moment. The message that I received that day in my heart, is something that shifted me so profoundly, that I became a seeker of all knowledge on self-mastery. I am consciously curious on how one can sustain and amplify their own internal loving relationship with ones-self. I believe the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you choose to have with yourself. Your internal landscape is what influences your external reality.

I have always understood that words held the power to create or to destroy. Choose your words wisely, don’t be the reason why someone chooses today as THEIR DAY. Be the voice that gifts light to the depths of their darkness. Be a tuning fork. When you shift how you internally whisper to yourself, you shift how your external world whispers back. Be the echo you want to receive. You are a cosmic miracle. The words you whisper, spark the emotions you feel, that magnetize your heart, that create the frequency your soul sings to the world.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

When I was 25, my husband and I welcomed our first son. It was right before Christmas. My parents now had 4 grandchildren. My sister and I wanted to get pictures taken to gift our parents something meaningful. I couldn’t find a picture frame that I wanted to present the pictures in. At this time, I had the pleasure of focusing solely on being a stay at home mom. I had the time, so I decided to create what I had pictured in my mind.

I designed a 3-tier picture frame. That was strung together with ribbon. I placed words on the frame to help stimulate the emotions I was wanting to invoke as they saw all the little grandbabies together. I really didn’t think too much of it, but in that moment I had just created a product that was going to launch my wall decor business. I have always naturally loved creating art, but I never thought what I created was anything a stranger would ever want to pay for.

My older sister could lovingly see that people were interested in what I had created for our parents. She gave me the nudge to make a bunch and go see what happened at a local Christmas bazaar. I cringe now at how I chose to display those frames. I put no thought into my booth display. I just brought a table, no table cloth (I’m seriously shaking my head in disbelief as I type this) and just laid those 3- tier frames down on the table. How I attracted anyone to even glance at my art or stop is beyond me. Something magical happened that day though. Every single 3-tier frame I created sold! My heart exploded and I was hooked. My first business, Life’s Little Moments, was born.

As a child, I secretly desired to be an artist. I couldn’t figure out in my mind how one could continuously create something new & get paid doing it. Just thinking about it paralyzed me. That is the magic of life though. There is inspiration all around us if we are willing to see it. My customers where constantly inspiring me. People often would ask how I knew to make that color with those exact words that they often would speak. They were dumb founded on how this stranger could have created the exact thing they needed. I would just smile and sometimes reply with “It came to me in a dream”, and leave it at that. Even what people would call mistakes like misspelled words. I would trust that It was supposed to be like that for a special someone that always did it or said it that way. Sure enough, someone would squeal with excitement that that was exactly how they said it. There are no mistakes, just purposefully orchestrated divine moments. People would often ask how I could display something that was made “wrongly”. I would just giggle and internally say. It’s not about me, its about what I was supposed to do for another. I was just sometimes guided to create perfect imperfections.

What I was afraid to share openly was, that 2 weeks prior to a show, I could tune in and feel the messages that people needed. The colors that they desired it to be and the number that needed to be made. I could FEEL who was coming. I didn’t tell a soul what was happening in my studio, not even my husband. I discovered it by accident one day. I turned on some country music. My heart just always magically opens as I listen to the heart felt stories being sung. As I allowed my awareness to soften and my attention to go towards the show that was coming up, I noticed I could “feel” and “hear” the messages that I needed to create for those that were coming. I could “feel” what needed to be created. And somehow, I just leaned in and trusted.

This energy fueled me so much that the world around me would magically fade away. I was in what others would call the “zone”, the “flow”. It was intoxicating. I was in love with the process. I knew I wasn’t in the business of selling art. I was in the business of activating emotions that people secretly desired to be feeling. It was the bridge to help them remember those moments that they never wanted to forget or the moments that they desired to be living. My goal was to open their hearts and get them to remember those magical moments they had lived but never wanted to forget. I loved quietly sitting back, listening to all the laughters and sniffles as people slowly walked through and read the messages that I was guided to create.

I slowly grew that business and I gained more time to focus on it as my children grew more independent. When my children got older, I chose to take my business on the road. I bought a 16 ft trailer and a 1 ton diesel to pull my black beauty. I had no experience in pulling or backing up a trailer, but I have never been one to be afraid of “not knowing how”. I trust in how I learn and I learn by doing. I believe everything is figureoutable! For the last 10 years I have traveled the Northwest setting up boutiques at art shows. I was strategic. I only went to the ones that really knew how to pull in the crowds.

In 2018 though, I started to feel the nudge that I was meant to be gifting my light differently. Deep down I knew what I was doing felt safe and I was being pulled to do something that asked more of me. When I expressed that out loud though, people couldn’t understand how I could just leave a successful business that I had built for so long. At that time I had already dedicated 16 years to it. They couldn’t see me as anything other than their “sign lady.” My heart though was no longer being satisfied by what I was doing. The voice kept getting louder. Telling me that I was meant to BE more, DO more, and allow others to truly SEE me. I would silently whisper to myself “Don’t try to mentally figure this out, just follow the glimmers.”

In 2020 I was gifted another pivotal moment. The very month that all my shows got canceled due to Covid. and everyone was fearfully asking me “What was I going to do? I internally was smiling saying “This is it. I wonder what the universe will bring me?” And that month is when my niece introduced me to the modality called Human Design. I went home and researched this thing she adamantly knew I would love. Boy was she right! I wept as I read the words on the page that was describing me to me. My heart knew this was it. This was my next thing. This was going to be the beginning of a whole new chapter!

The Universe had magically opened up my schedule for me to pour my time into learning this modality. The funny thing was I felt like I was remembering it, not learning it. I could speak effortlessly about it to others. People could feel how excited I was to share it. I felt so different. I felt settled, and completely in soul alignment. I was no longer hiding any parts of who I truly was. I was so secure, balanced, and unapologetically me. I was no longer afraid for the world to see me because I could see me. I could see the light that I came here to experience and gain wisdom about so that I could share it with others. My life was divinely designed to be exactly the way it was and it was up to me to keep following my glimmers.

I’m happy to say. I am not known as the “sign lady” anymore. I’m now known as the women who interprets your soul through the lens of Human Design. An internal bridge maker perhaps. I help people remember who they came in this world to BE… not DO. I believe our bodies hold the wisdom to our transformations. Some of us though, have unconsciously created placeholders that disrupt our energy patterns that create painful experiences. Whether it’s emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual pain. Pain is our signal that something is out of alignment with our true authentic self. If we were to get curious and listen to what our body is trying to say. We would stop cycling through the experiences we unconsciously are attracting.

About a year into my process of ‘remembering’ Human Design, I got another nudge to go ‘remember’ how to do energy work. I say ‘remember’, because as a kid I would pretend that my 5 year old little hands had the power to heal the sick animals on my grandparents ranch. I remember asking my friends if they could too, step out of their body into another body and sift around in what I called their files to “see” what was out of place. I would always get a wide eyed look and a stern no! I learned real quick to stop asking.

Today, I have created what I call The Harken Method. I now teach other Dr.’s, practitioners, and energy therapists how to listen to the body. The body already knows what it needs to release, transform, and align itself with so that the body stops reflecting out its painful patterns. We just have forgotten the art of how to listen to how the body speaks. I combine Human Design, Reiki, muscle testing, and Quantum physics to create a painless and effortless way of sustaining and creating new patterns. We are wonderful little computers that store everything that has ever happened, even if we don’t consciously remember, but our energy bodies do. Maybe you can call me an energetic hygienist. I help you release what you have stored that no longer serves you. I believe that is truly what The Harken Method gifts us. A beautiful and painless way to be our optimal expression. I am so grateful that I get to be a witness to other people’s transformations. I can feel my light get brighter and stronger when I see other peoples lights “turn on.” When we allow the body to be at the state it desires to be in. It is a wonderful miracle making machine. The body will naturally heal itself. I do not call myself a healer. I don’t hold that kind of power. I have developed my gifts and learned the art of listening and allowing myself to be a body interpreter. I have named my new business My Lovely Design. There is no human that isn’t designed to be its unique and perfectly lovely self. You are a colorful piece of thread, that is meant to weave itself through this tapestry called life. As we all illuminate the light, the picture we create together starts to magically form. No one is here by mistake.

We are a divine spark of limitless potential, limitless possibilities, and limitless love. What a ‘Lovely Design’ we all are.

Have you ever had to pivot?

Oh boy did I ever pivot! I did share this story on the previous question about my business. I went from being a thriving traveling Artist to a Quantum Human Design coach & Energy Practitioner in a blink of an I. I felt like I had to allow the world around me to catch up to what I always knew was with in me. 2020 gifted me so much and I’m am thankful I had the courage to say yes.

Can you tell us about what’s worked well for you in terms of growing your clientele?

I have grown my business solely on word of mouth. Natural referrals. I don’t desire to be known for the sake of being known. I want the work I do to be so transformative and useful that that is how I’m remembered and known. I want my work to enter the room before I do. If I can help someone transform a painful pattern or get them to truly see how beautiful their soul is. I believe they can’t help, but share it with others, because it was so pivotal in transforming in their life. We naturally share what helps us with those we love. We can’t hide it when we get into emotional alignment. It naturally just shines. People deeply desire to feel internal freedom and when they see it in another they will ask “How did you do that?” and then that is when my work is shared. I believe that is the highest honor I could possibly receive. Someone speaking my name in such a way that it creates a deep desire in the other person to seek me out. Integrity is the main focus in my business. I don’t focus on money I focus on crafting my services. I focus on being the tuning fork that naturally attracts those who are ready to receive. I make sure that I’m “toning” my days which then creates the right energy that I want being reflected back to me. I attract what I am, not what I want. I trust in my connection with source that I know I am always being taken care of. If one client cancels I know it needed to open up for someone else. It always works out. My strategy is natural referrals. I believe that is how I’m designed to grow a sustainable clientele. I work on my energy hygiene as much as I’m asking another to do it for themselves. I walk the walk. I do the work so that I can gift my work.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.MyLovelyDesign.com
• Instagram: www.instagram.com/_mylovelydesign_
• Facebook: www.Facebook.com/tami.r.reed

Image Credits
Rebekah Pernell Photography & Heather Johnson Webster