We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Matthew Langford a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Matthew, appreciate you joining us today. What sort of legacy are you hoping to build. What do you think people will say about you after you are gone, what do you hope to be remembered for?

I aspire to be a man remembered for his sacrifices, walking this journey humbly and with perseverance. I believe the greatest act of love is denying oneself for the benefit of others. When we die to ourselves, metaphorically speaking, and walk in the dark, that is the truest form of love and devotion. Every day, I strive to take up my cross and seek truth.

Matthew, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

At Beyond the Self Healing, I help individuals shatter the barriers, illusions, and structures they’ve built around themselves, preventing them from forgiving others. Through my practice, I guide clients to embrace their authentic humanity, beyond the confines of names, occupations, past stories. By allowing our hearts to break, we discover a raw, genuine part of ourselves, grounded in our shared humanness. I employ various modalities to gently nudge clients towards confronting their pain, sparking a transformative journey of forgiveness. By embracing our vulnerability, we unlock the power of pain to heal, strengthen, and transform us. An open heart is not about being overly emotional but rather wise enough to acknowledge our organic nature and ground ourselves in truth. It’s in this surrender that true faith emerges, as St. John of the Cross so eloquently put it: ‘If one must be sure of the road they tread, one must close their eyes and walk in the dark.’

Any stories or insights that might help us understand how you’ve built such a strong reputation?

What helped me build my reputation was my ability of Meeting people where they are, without judgment or expectation, allows for a deeper connection and understanding. By acknowledging that everyone has their own unique experiences and perspectives, we can approach each other with empathy and compassion.

Recognizing that the person sitting across from us is a mirror to our own humanness is a powerful reminder of our shared human experience. It encourages us to be present, listen actively, and approach each interaction with kindness and understanding.

By embracing this mindset, we can create a safe and inclusive space for meaningful connections for personal growth.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

One lesson I had to unlearn is the belief that self-worth is tied to external achievements and validation. Growing up, I was conditioned to believe that my value as a person was directly linked to my academic success, social status, and ability to meet others’ expectations.

However, through a series of challenging life experiences and introspective journeys, I came to realize that this belief was not only limiting but also harmful. It led me to constantly seek validation outside of myself, perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety.

Unlearning this lesson required me to confront my deep-seated fears and redefine my understanding of self-worth. I had to learn to embrace my inherent value as a human being, regardless of external circumstances or achievements. This journey taught me to cultivate self-compassion, recognize my intrinsic worth, and live a more authentic, purpose-driven life. But also understanding that we are limited and we cannot do it on our own, we need something or someone who is beyond us. This is God.

Contact Info:

• Website: Beyondtheselfhealing.com
• Instagram: Beyondtheself_

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Anna Carolina photography